5 QUESTIONS TO ASK BEFORE HAVING AN AFFAIR
It is now a norm for men to have an affair. Some men don’t really have any particular reason for it. They just think they shouldn’t be in a relationship with just one person. Well, I don’t know where that mentality came from but it is common among men. I doubt if it’s innate because not all men are like that. Some men think having one woman in your life is work already.
Sometimes, people innocently find themselves having an affair with someone else. Maybe they just became sexually attracted to their co-worker who they see every day. At first it was resistible, later they find out that the feeling was mutual which makes the feeling stronger. One thing leads to another and then they find themselves cheating.
Right from the moment you start thinking of having an affair with someone else outside, you already started cheating in your mind. It is only a matter of time before you find someone that will fulfill your needs. That’s how the world works. Before you start having any affair, you need to ask yourself some basic core questions which brings us to the main emphasis of this article- five questions to ask before having an affair.
Let’s dive in!
HAVE YOU THOUGHT ABOUT THE KIND OF AFFAIR YOU WANT TO INDULGE IN?
According to some professionals in affair relations, sex is the motive of the many affairs. Most men enter an affair because of the sex they are not getting from their marriage. However, there are many kinds of affair one can indulge in. You have to pin point the particular type of affair you want.
Is it the emotional affair? This kind of affair is the kind that involves having someone to love apart from your spouse. We also have emotionless love, which involves just sex and with no strings attached. Consider the kind of affair you want and consider what you will be gaining from it.
WHAT ARE THE CONSEQUENCES?
Consider the consequences of your actions. What will the affair you are thinking to have affect? You don’t have to be at loss just because of your selfish desires. You are definitely going to hurt someone. Some people get into an affair and regret it because they couldn’t bear the after-effect and the guilt.
WHAT IF YOU GET THE PERSON PREGNANT?
Have you considered you might get someone pregnant outside in this affair? If care is not taken properly, what you have being preventing will definitely get out. Sometimes, the person you are having an affair with has another agenda which might be to have a life with you. This might result into ruining your marriage. Be wise!
HAVE YOU CONSIDERED IT MIGHT LEAD TO YOU LEAVING YOUR PARTNER?
Letting someone else into heart might definitely end up destroying your marriage. According to some studies, most people who have affairs outside (80%) result in divorce. They leave their partners because of their newly found love which was never their intention. They just feel trapped in love.
WHAT IF YOU GET INFECTED WITH STD?
STD, short for sexually transmitted disease, is a common disease gotten from having multiple sex partners. Have you considered you might contact an almost incurable disease which can affect your life and work. It is not only about the fun. Sometimes, having too much could be detrimental to your health.
My cousin, Elena was having an affair with someone for a fairly long time. She thought she was the only the lady he was sleeping with. One thing led to another and she was diagnosed for herpes.
These are some of the questions you should ask yourself before entering any affair.